Again, not trying to make one side seem right or wrong - I've been in both roles - but I wanted to illustrate the dangerous turn they've taken. I've found the sort of requests that turn to "nagging" are the ones the asker feels were not heard the first (or second, or third) time they were made. Mar feels she's been put in this position where she needs to repeat herself, look like the grumpy one in front of their friends, etc. Jane in turn, embarrassed that she didn't even know it was a problem, feels like she's expected to read minds. Is Mar going to be mad *every* time Jane doesn't anticipate her feelings? Add in the everyday stress of dropping your keys down the sewer, anger that is nobody's fault, but is inevitably part of their argument, and you've got the kind of conflict that can ravage a relationship in its early days. Like, they could break up over a cigarette and a set of keys. After everything that happened, they could be strangers again.