Okay, so I was airing something here, a type of manipulation that I've always known was bullshit, but at a certain point had no way of fighting. The single tear of a person who only wants to be off the hook somehow, who is legitimately Afraid of something but not the thing they're describing, and certainly nothing they'd know how share with an intimate partner. The single tear of a person who genuinely thinks the story they've cooked up is compelling (maybe even real) and can't believe how flat it's falling. I don't often put such a contemptuous figure in OP. But again, Anders himself doesn't matter very much: it's what he represents to Mar, and what she feels slipping away.